01/02/2014 10:15 am ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

Iyanla Vanzant: 3 Ways To Live In The Now

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By Iyanla Vanzant

Q: How do I stay in the moment?

1. Train your mind to sit.

The mind is like a puppy: easily distracted. And in the same way you train a puppy, we must train our minds. If you've gotten used to overloading yourself with thoughts of next week, month, and year (we often call this "planning"), stop. Take a moment to breathe deeply. Licking, nibbling, and gnawing obsessively on next week -- when this week is still here to be enjoyed -- just exhausts you.

2. Stop thinking, start writing.

To-do lists are a wonderful way to stay focused on the moment before you. Start each day by making a list of everything you want to accomplish, then address one thing at a time. Let the list, not your mind, carry the weight.

3. Give yourself permission to feel.

Feelings -- even the unpleasant ones -- keep us present in our body. Life is a process in which everything that unfolds is meaningful and purposeful. Every feeling has a message and a lesson. Take a moment to feel, listen, and learn.

Iyanla Vanzant is the host of OWN's Iyanla: Fix My Life and the author of Peace from Broken Pieces .

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