While most men are "preheated," most women warm up to sex slowly. Learning the reasons for this difference can help men become better lovers.
Most men over 50 can remember experiencing libido as a strong drive — akin, almost, to hunger: They felt horny and went after sex. (Indeed, some still do.) But recent research shows that women experience libido as an urge far less compelling than that. In a landmark study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association in 1999, for example, University of Chicago sociologist Edward O. Laumann revealed his findings that 30 percent of women have low or no libido. (This sexual desire difference is one of the most frequent causes for women and couples to seek sex therapy.)