06/11/2014 09:43 am ET Updated Jun 11, 2014

I Have To Come Out As A Lesbian Every Day, And It's Exhausting

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At the doctor’s recently, she asked the default question for all female patients of childbearing age: “Any chance you could be pregnant?”

This touched off a conversation so familiar I could recite it from heart:


“Are you sure?”


“Are you sexually active?”


“What kind of birth control are you using?”


“So you’re currently trying to get pregnant?”

“Not so much, no.”

“So how do you know there’s no chance you could be pregnant?”

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