10/06/2014 06:19 pm ET Updated Oct 06, 2014

Stepmother: Not Evil. Not Perfect. Not Mom.

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Despite the fact that most of my insights on stepmothers were derived from fairy tales and Disney movies (in which they are at best oblivious and at worst murderous), I accepted the job of stepparent eagerly when I reconnected romantically with a childhood friend after my first marriage ended. We were both bringing a child to the relationship — my son M was almost 2, and his daughter E was 5. I enjoyed being a mother (most of the time) and felt I had the disposition and generosity of heart to open my life to another child.

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