10/23/2014 01:14 pm ET Updated Oct 23, 2014

What I Learned About Privilege By Joining A Frat

“How many people in this freakin’ fraternity do you think are taking Black Feminism this semester?” If my mom’s question hadn’t been rhetorical I would have given her the answer: one if I decided to join the fraternity, none if I didn’t.

It was my freshman year at Brown and I couldn’t believe I was considering joining a frat. My choice was pragmatic: A fraternity would be the easiest way to live with a big group of friends and avoid the housing lottery. But my baseline understanding of contemporary frat life was that it made Animal House look like "Fresh Air With Terry Gross," and I bristled at the idea — it went against everything I wanted from college.

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