12/03/2014 03:20 am ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

The Difference Between A ‘Gold' Digger And A ‘Goal' Digger (VIDEO)

Valerie says she’s proud to be a “goal” digger — not a gold digger — who has a talent for manipulating situations, which has brought her money, jewelry, trips and cars. “We’re exotic, sort of like a snake charming you,” she explains, pointing out that she never exchanges anything for sex and is happy to pay for her own basic needs. “Real, true goal diggers, we don’t really care about the trinkets. I don’t need a man, but I do need what he has to offer.”

She insists she operates differently from a gold digger, explaining to Dr. Phil in the video above: “A gold digger is a person who is only thinking about the present. She’s only concerned about getting trinkets. She doesn’t necessarily know her value. A goal digger is a person, who, we understand that we can do it by ourselves. I don’t need you, but what you do complements what I do.”

The 28-year-old sums it up: “I would describe the relationship that I have with the men in my life as one big chess match, and I will always be the one who yells, ‘Check mate.’"

But Valerie’s brother, Andre, says she preys on men with money and power, and he fears her sexy, scheming ways could get her seriously hurt.

“Do you manipulate men?” Dr. Phil asks Valerie.

“I probably manipulate situations but not the man,” she says. “I’m emotionally void. I don’t really care, because one day I’ll find a man who I actually care about, and I will do that because the feeling is mutual. Nine times out of ten, the men that I run into they don’t have good intentions, so I don’t have a problem manipulating this situation.”

On his show Wednesday, Dr. Phil shares with Valerie what he believes may be behind her behavior. Click here to see where you can watch.

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