I've always been an initiator. I'm fine with being the first one to grab my plate at dinner, the first one to hit the dance floor at a wedding, or the first one to call or text after a date. I've never had a problem with reaching out and taking initiative, and with that, I've taken a bit of criticism. While this desire to make moves may classify me as a "go-getter," others have been quick to call deem me as someone who can be "relentless" or "pushy."
Well, I'm here to tell you that reaching out is worth it. Making the first move is worth it, and breaking societal rules about being "pushy" is worth it. While vulnerability is a huge side effect of reaching out, I've found that it's better to be vulnerable and risky than to not have tried at all. By putting yourself out there, you're letting the world (and the people around you) know your true intentions, and at the end of the day, that's one of the most rewarding things you can do for yourself.
Don't get me wrong: I understand that this world is full of extroverts and introverts, but reaching out is part of human nature, and while it's harder for some than others, you are bound to reap the benefits when you step out of your comfort zone.
I've promised myself that I'm going to make 2015 the year of being bold. This has worked in my favor, and if you commit to it, I promise it'll work in your favor, too. This can apply to so many different aspects of our lives if we look at it closely.
So how can you 'reach out' and what does reaching out entail? It entails being bold, making moves, and going somewhere that is uncomfortable but oh so rewarding. While this concept seems vague and broad, it is so deeply applicable to our daily lives, and it can truly make a difference in helping you get what you want.
As LinkedIn's number one fan I've reached out to people I admire, seeking advice and asking about their careers and experience. A simple message goes a long way, and I've met so many amazing and inspiring people just by reaching out and sending that initial message. Yes, it's scary hitting 'send' and not knowing if you'll get a response, but putting yourself out there is completely worth it.
With that being said, take the initiative in your office and in your professional relationships, too. Your office is a huge part of your daily life, and you deserve to feel comfortable there. While every office environment and situation is different, it doesn't hurt to make an initiative and have your voice heard. If you're searching for a job, reaching out always works in your favor. Inquire about positions that may not be posted. Sometimes the most coveted jobs aren't promoted on public forums, and shooting an email to someone who works at a company you admire could change your life.
Reaching out is just as beneficial outside of the workforce. Call me crazy, but I totally think it's worth it to send the first text or make the first call. In today's society of constant communication, the "three-day rule" no longer exists, and the right significant other will appreciate you for being genuine. Sure, it's super easy to feel vulnerable when you make the first move, but someone has to, right?
Make the initiative with your friends and family. I want to clarify that reaching out doesn't only pertain to dealing with conflict. While I'm a huge communicator, I know that not all of my loved ones are, so if I feel distant, I make the effort to reach out. There's no point in playing the waiting game because life is short and we deserve to chase after what we want.
The happiest life is the one we dream of living, and reaching out gets you closer to making that a reality. Plus, when was the last time you got what you wanted by standing back and being passive? Reach out. It's worth it, and you're worth it. You deserve to be happy.