11/01/2012 09:39 am ET Updated Jan 01, 2013

Really, He's Just Not That Into You

So, I actually decided to write this post in spite of some recent events that I'm not fully comfortable going into full detail about on the Interwebs. And, I don't think that most of you would even enjoy reading if I did. But, by the title, you should be able to get a pretty good idea why I'm writing this.

"He's Just Not That Into You" is one of my favorite movies ever. Yes, I can just anticipate the judgment and the "Really?" expressions on people's faces and the temptation to just stop reading this article right now. But let me just explain why. Within the first few minutes of the movie, the main character manages to bring viewers to a necessary realization (or, at least it brought me to the realization): He's just not that into you. And it goes through multiple examples of how we always try to justify why our crushes act like they don't have mutual feelings for us without actually admitting that maybe they don't have mutual feelings towards us. Tying this all together, the main reason why "He's Just Not That Into You" is one of my favorite movies is because it gives me the brutally honest advice that no one else really will: He's just not that into me.

I'm not saying any of this in a jaded, chip-on-my-shoulder way. I'm a huge romantic. Ninety percent of the movies I own are chick flicks. I watch a cutesy Taylor Swift music video at least once a day. And, I really, really, really believe in true love and soul mates. I'm saying all of this in an honest, self-aware way. As much as I hate the idea of giving up on something -- or someone -- and thinking of what could have been, I especially hate spending my time and energy on something that deep down I know won't work out but that I try to make work anyway. I know that sounds pretty harsh, but in a way, it's actually crazily absurd to spend time on someone who clearly doesn't want to be with you. It's like if you studied really hard and went through years of schooling be a veterinarian... who specialized in treating dinosaurs. This isn't exactly the cleverest comparison, but I'm just trying to put some perspective on how it's sort of ridiculous to spend our limited time and energy on someone who doesn't appreciate our effort.

So I'll admit that I partially wrote this for me; I needed to vent, write and deal with some typical teenage feelings. But I know I'm not the only one who's struggling to admit the simple truth to myself: He's just not that into me. So, to end this on a positive note, I really believe that we will all find someone who will like us back and won't make us feel like we're dinosaur vets.