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08/12/2014 01:53 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

We'll Never Know What Really Killed Robin Williams

I don't know Robin Williams, but like everyone else, I feel like I did. So when I heard the news that he had died of an apparent suicide, I cried. I was sad for me, I was sad for all of us, and I was sad for his family.2014-08-12-1407802211000ObitRobinWilliamsRoem.jpg

And I cried because the news of Williams' death was just simply too, too much after a day of other intense news -- the looting in Ferguson, Mo., that followed the shooting death of yet another black teenager by a police officer; the dramatic rescue of a handful of people on Mount Sinjar whose faces were filled with exhaustion and anguish as the helicopter flew away from still thousands of others left behind; and the seemingly endless fighting that has driven them there.

Immediately we began posting on Facebook about Williams' death. Today -- and for many days to come -- there will be more of the same. We're sad and we're angry, but mostly we're confused. How could somebody with so, so much talent and success and so, so much everything kill himself?

It doesn't make sense and we want it to make sense. But the bottom line is, it will never make sense. We'll likely find out the "how" behind his death but we'll never really know or understand the "why."

Severe depression -- depression, period -- is like that. So is alcoholism and drug addiction.

My own mama battled demons that led her to try and drink them away with vodka she stored in our toilet tanks. My kindergartener self worried about finding her swinging from our weeping willow tree because it was a threat she made before my siblings and I climbed on the school bus.

My dear Uncle John, the guy responsible for me wanting to be a writer, was funny and smart and wrote a book that was nominated for a Pulitzer Prize, but none of that kept him from trying to drink himself to death.

The stigma that still remains about depression keeps me from writing about others I love who have battled -- still battle -- depression.

I wish I could say I met their depression with compassion, but mostly I didn't. I wanted them to stop it. I wanted them to get over it. I wanted them to count their blessings, not their curses.

It didn't occur to me then that they couldn't.

I don't want Robin Williams to be dead, but like all deaths, I hope something good comes from it. I hope we don't spend our time trying to make sense of the senseless. I hope instead we use it to find compassion for people who are suffering -- in the world and in our homes -- because of this and other mental disorders.

RIP, Mr. Williams. Your life -- and your death -- will be with us forever.

This blog first appeared at www.anniescholl.com

Photo: Reed Saxon AP