07/25/2012 06:27 pm ET Updated Sep 24, 2012

I Blame Rupert Sanders More Than Kristen Stewart for Their Affair

Kristen Stewart's hooking up with a married man is despicable. So is cheating on her loyal boyfriend. Nevertheless, Rupert's behavior is for more inexcusable.

Kristen Stewart -- you are, no doubt, now mortified, humiliated and filled with regret that your steamy make-out sessions have been caught on camera and are published in the pages of US Weekly.

Reality has slapped you in the face. You've cheated on your long-time boyfriend Robert Pattinson, who worships the ground you walk on, which is bad enough. It's so hurtful to Rob and he's done nothing to deserve the pain he's no doubt feeling.

But even worse, your behavior with Rupert may end up leading to the demise of his marriage -- and there's NOTHING redeeming about destroying a family, especially one with young children, ages 5 and 7.

Yes, all of that is bad. And you absolutely let your better judgement go poof! -- out the window.

Nevertheless, I think anyone who's throwing blame around seriously needs to take into account the fact that you are just 22-years-old.

You are young and probably just a little naive.

On the other hand, Rupert Sanders, the SWATH director and your lover, is almost twice your age, at 41. And he IS married with two children.

He is old enough and experienced enough to know exactly what he's been doing in every way.

Old enough to know that he was risking his wife and family, while indulging in his hijinks with you.

He's also old enough to know how this could hurt both your careers, especially YOUR career, Kristen. He knows what an enormous fan base you have of young women who look up to you as a role model. He knows that this episode could severely damage your relationship with your fans.

He also had to know that it could hurt your career as well. One of your key assets IS your huge relationship with your fans who will come to your movies.

At least, they would have come to your movies.

I doubt Rupert was planning to leave his wife for you so he was destroying your great relationship with Rob, hurting your career AND sending a dagger into his own wife, Liberty Ross' heart.

Plus, he wasn't just older, he was also your "boss" on the film, so he's in the power position in your relationship.

For all these reasons, he deserves more of the blame in this sad, devastating situation.

It's clear from how quickly you issued your public apology that you knew you messed up big time.

"I'm deeply sorry for the hurt and embarrassment I've caused to those close to me and everyone this has affected. This momentary indiscretion has jeopardized the most important thing in my life, the person I love and respect the most, Rob. I love him, I love him, I'm so sorry."

Now the questions are: Will Rob forgive you? Will your fans forgive you?

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