01/17/2013 05:51 pm ET Updated Mar 11, 2013

Tell Us: What's The Most Important Lesson You've Learned About Work?

It's been one hell of a year since I graduated. Two jobs. One private company, one public company. One small company, one large company. One moved slow, the other fast.

Many people have come into my life -- bosses, co-workers, acquaintances. And, many have left, teaching me that nothing in this life is certain except change. But, if you're smart, you can minimize the effect change has on you. How? By finding a job that fits your personality and lifestyle.

It's the most important business decision you can ever make. Not who you marry and not what you study, but who you work with and how they interact with each other.

Why? Because you spend hours in the office everyday communicating with the people that you work with, making agreements with them, learning their language, and providing them with results. Everything that you do throughout your day at the office is colored by your relationships and the unspoken rules or norms that govern them.

So, find that person, or that mentor, within the company that you connect with -- and, then, be open, honest and loyal to them. If you don't find that person -- or if that person isn't open, honest and loyal back -- leave, or learn to fit in on your own.

After all, organizations of people are complex. And, ultimately, it's the relationships you make with those around you that will take you to where you want to be.

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