05/28/2013 12:25 pm ET Updated Jul 28, 2013

Practice Pilates for Greater Sex

I'd like to explore the many ways that Pilates can improve your sex life. As per usual, I speak from experience.

I would hope that by now, all human inhabitants of Mother Earth know the benefits of living a healthy life, and that they know that physical fitness leads to more energy, confidence and less muffin top. The prouder you are of your physique, the more likely you'll want to show it off, especially between the sheets. Personally, due to Pilates, I feel so confident in bed that I feel as if I should get paid. Wait. Never mind.

Through a steady Pilates practice, you may start wanting sex both morning and night, and you will be outstanding at it. This is the goal anyway. I'll break it down by using several Pilates principles by way of example.

If the pelvic floor muscles, which are a part of the core, are strong, then you'll be able to increase tension, master movements and orgasm upon your command. Since I've become a Pilates instructor, one of the many beautiful side effects is my ability to contract and release at will. Pilates sure is empowering!

If you're not sure where or what the pelvic floor muscles are, then as you continue to read this, pretend you're going to pee your pants and then stop the flow of your pretend pee. Those are them.

Pilates exercises involve coordinating the breath with each movement. Emphasis is made on expansive inhalations and exhalations, which brings oxygenated blood to the muscles faster. When we can do this correctly, it leads to an increased blood flow to the sex organs. And let's face it, who among us wants to suck wind when we're having sex. I'd rather be sucking something else. Whoa, easy tigress. All I'm saying is that Improved breath will increase stamina.

Controlled panting is what you want, and Pilates is a perfect way to practice that control. Since the system calls for muscle control, so as to perform each exercise accurately and precisely, you become more aware of how your body moves and the function that each muscle has within that movement.

Pilates is a mind-body system, so there's a mental component. In teaching, I use imagery to achieve correct form. This requires a great deal of focus and concentration from my clients. I use different images when I'm in bed, but I am focused nonetheless. I'm looking for impeccable form without extraneous movement, just like Pilates requires. It's maximum sexual efficiency.

I'm not saying that by doing Pilates, it can turn you into a contortionist, but I can guarantee an increase in flexibility. The hip joints especially are worked in many of the exercises. Being able to get your legs over your head, or splay them out like a wishbone, can be very erotic. Your partner will undoubtedly be impressed.

Stability plays a vital role in Pilates, where one's core and balance is continuously being challenged. Don't you think it would enhance playtime, if you were able to stabilize yourself in certain sexual positions? Doggie style comes to mind, which requires balancing on all fours (some of us in the biz call this quadruped) while your partner thrusts, bumps and grinds, trying to shake your foundation.

Mr. Pilates designed a piece of equipment called the cadillac, which includes an attachment called the trapeze. It allows for super fun movement. I have a feeling that Mr. Pilates knew exactly what he was doing when he brought out the trapeze.

I believe, or I'd like to believe anyway, that he wanted us to practice on the trapeze, so that we might take those moves into our bedrooms and hang from the rafters, if you're an extreme sport type of person that is. Or so that you might fulfill your childhood dream of joining the circus.

Practicing Pilates has been shown to help with erectile dysfunction. I know nothing about this, given that my lover has the stamina and control of an 18-year-old, or that of Sting. Since my boyfriend also practices Pilates, E.D. isn't his problem. Locking the front door when he leaves the house is his problem. We all have our crosses to bear.

Now get into the Pilates studio, so that you can mount your partner with confidence, zest, and without the fear of pulling a groin muscle.