Do You Desire Love? Have A Sleepover

If you're with someone that you're not excited to see at night, you're not in the right relationship. It's about bonding, connecting and downloading your day.
06/12/2013 10:53 am ET Updated Aug 12, 2013

Remember when we were kids?

Friday would come, or it'd be the summertime. You'd look at your mom and say, "Can I sleepover at Denise's house tonight?"

Remember the excitement you had as your mom drove you over to your friend's house? That feeling of exhilaration that you were going to have this amazing sleepover?

You'd always get to stay up a little later, as you were having a sleepover.

You'd get to read, cuddle up, have fun and talk under the covers with the flashlight.

When your friend's parents went to bed, you'd get to raid the refrigerator and have a late-night snack.

Maybe you'd get to watch a movie or favorite show, or sometimes the babysitter would be there and just didn't pay any attention to you. Most of the time, they'd be too consumed with hanging out with one of their friends.

The beauty of a sleepover back then was the conversations that lasted throughout the night. Weren't they so much fun? I know I have some great memories of sleepovers as a kid.

Well, you know what? That's what love should be like. Love should be like having a constant sleepover with someone.

You should be able to look forward to sitting together and sharing stories about your day; be excited about washing your face and brushing your teeth together, feel like you can't wait to fall asleep next to each other.

It's so much fun to connect with someone like that. You want to enjoy and look forward to every aspect of your lives together. It doesn't matter whether you're doing something mundane like doing the washing up, or something romantic like taking a bath together. Life and love should feel like an endless sleepover; every single night.

That's why I'm a firm believer that you never, ever go to bed angry with each other.

Never go to bed without kissing each other.

Never go to bed without saying, "I love you."

Life can be an endless sleepover. It just depends on the way you look at the relationship.

If you're with someone that you're not excited to see at night, you're not in the right relationship. It's about bonding, connecting and downloading your day. A great relationship is all about communication. It's about listening to each other. Touching, talking and connecting.

Just like we did when we were little kids. When we were little kids, we couldn't wait to connect with our friends at a sleepover. We made it special.

So, go and look at your relationship. Start thinking about your weekend sleepovers. The fun you can have. The beauty you can have.

Here's what I want you to do.

This weekend, have a sleepover with your lover. Make it fun. Build a tent. Put some extra goodies in the refrigerator.

Rent a movie. Crawl into bed. Talk. Touch.

Ignite that relationship again!

Treat it as you did when you were a kid and you were so excited about that sleepover.

Maybe even go somewhere else. Go to a hotel, and have your sleepover somewhere else.

For those you are monetarily challenged, get a tent and go out in the back yard. Have fun!

It's all about being creative. It's all about remembering the beauty of when you were a child.

Love is all about being a child again. It's about opening up your heart, opening up your soul, and dropping your ego.

So, forget about the tension, the fights, or whatever it might be. Send the kids off to their uncle's, aunt's or grandmother's house if you have them, and have a sleepover with your significant other. Eat your favorite snacks, watch your favorite movies, talk into the wee hours of the morning, and reconnect like you did when you first met.

Love is having a constant sleepover. Sometimes, we forget about the beauty of it. We get so caught up in our debt, so caught up in our heads, so caught up in our lives, and so caught up in our work.

But it's time to reignite it, and it's a time to do it now!