So you're in a relationship and your significant other has done something to you. Maybe they forgot to pick up the kids from school. Maybe they forgot your birthday or your anniversary. Perhaps they just plain pissed you off.
What things can you (and should you) forgive in a relationship, and what can you (and should you) not forgive? You know, I was reading the other day about how Tiger Woods' wife came to visit him with two Starbucks cups in hand.
Here is a woman who has had two children with Tiger Woods, but we now know that Tiger may have been living up to this name in other ways. Granted, he was always a "tiger" on the golf course.
According to some reports, though, his Mistress found that Tiger also was a kinky Tiger in bed. Can you imagine if your famous husband or wife cheated on you, and you had to see pictures of it and dirty text messages that were sent posted all over the Internet?
Can you imagine sitting in your local Starbucks, and all of a sudden four women with whom your husband had sex approach you and say "By the way, your husband is GREAT in bed. I really enjoyed it. He is so good at oral sex. Does he take care of you the same way? And his dirty texts are amazing!"
Can you imagine actually getting reports about the details of your spouse's infidelity, or actually having to watch what is happening in your sex life played out all over the news? What can you forgive in a relationship and, really, why would you forgive a cheater?
Here is how I feel about cheaters. I truly believe that once someone cheats, they are probably always going to cheat.
To me, cheating is something you never do in a relationship. If you decide to commit to someone, then you need to be committed to them and you need to be able to communicate with them.
In order to have a great sex life with anyone, you need to be able to communicate your desires, your wants and your needs. If you're going to have a great dating life or a great relationship, you always need to keep the lines of communication open.
When someone cheats, and especially if that person has already been caught with their "pants down" with four or five different people already, what makes you think that person is ever going to change and stop cheating? People don't change.
People like Tiger Woods do not change. So if you were Tiger Woods' wife, what would you do in this situation? Would you allow him back into your life, or would you get some self-respect and move forward with your life?
I know some of you are thinking, "Oh, but she loves him!" You know what? Sometimes love is not enough. Sometimes you need to realize that the person you're with is incapable of having any type of relationship, and you need to be honest with yourself about that. Sometimes it's time to move forward.
What would your breaking point be in a relationship? When is the point when you would decide you need to move on with your life?