Relationship Coach, Author and YouTube Expert with over 28 million views
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Swipe left, swipe right, swipe left, swipe right.
It can get a little tedious and time consuming. And…
It sucks big time when the matches fade away like a train in the distance.
That’s why I put together this short video to help you with one of the hottest new dating apps… Bumble!
Sending just one of these four flirty first messages on Bumble can dramatically increase your success rate and help you secure more real world dates, with high quality men.
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Go watch it now and let me know what you think in the comments below.
You’ve got 24 hours to contact him or else he disappears.
Here are four flirty first messages to send a guy on Bumble to catch his attention, and start that conversation.
Bumble Message #1
The first one is meant to be lighthearted and flirty. Here’s an example:
I think your shorts might just be a little too long.
There you go. You got his attention, by poking fun a little bit, and that’s the whole point, right?
You’re not here to make fun of him in a serious way, just find something in his profile that you can lightly tease him about.
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When you tease him you’re going to get his attention and it’s going to want to make him respond.
Bumble Message #2
Number two, is the inquisitive observation. Here’s an example:
I see that you like to snowboard. Where’s your favorite mountain?
All you’re doing is finding something in his profile and ask a genuine question about it.
Just be observant. See if there’s some type of hobby that he’s into. Maybe there’s something that he’s doing at work or something that he’s doing with his friends or his family.
Just take a look at it. It will only take you 10 seconds.
Bumble Message #3
The third type of message to send on Bumble is called the cold read. Here’s an example:
Let me guess. You’re not from Boston? I’m thinking LA.
It’s a cold read because you are looking at something in his profile, and you’re guessing something about him.
You could be completely wrong, but it has the ability to spark a fun conversation, and chances are it’s going to get his attention.
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Other cold reads could be:
Guessing his astrological sign
Guessing what he does for work
Guess something that he does for fun
Just take a quick look at his profile, guess something about him, throw it out there, and watch him respond.
Bumble Message #4
Finally, number four is just go straight for the pick up line.
Now let’s say you got a guy’s profile and literally there’s nothing in there that you can really work with, but you still want to message him.
You could try this line:
Two truths and a lie. Ready. Set. Go.
Believe it or not, Hinge, which is another dating app, ran a survey, and they found that this line improves your response rate likelihood by over 31%. It’s fun, it’s playful, and you know what? It’s just like a fun little game for you guys to get to know each other.
Before you know it, he’s going to say his two truths and a lie, you can guess.
You’re going to have your two truths and a lie. Before you know it, you’re having a great time and see where the conversation goes from there.
Final Thoughts:
Remember, the only goal of online dating, whether it’s Bumble, Match, eHarmony, or OkCupid, is to meet the person offline.
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It’s not a relationship… it’s not anything yet until you’ve met offline. So use it as a tool to be able to meet people in the real world.
What are some fun lines that you’ve used that have worked really well? Share in the comments below.
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