You have come to terms with the realization that there is something in your life that no longer fits, and you are ready to move beyond it. You are realizing not only that, your job, relationship, situation or behavior has become stagnant and is no longer benefiting you, but resisting the ending is more painful than giving in and surrendering or letting go. You are ready to move forward but are afraid of what that entails. Here you will find seven steps to help you let go and move forward confidently, and with peace and ease.
Step One: Acceptance
Accept the realization that what you currently have is no longer satisfactory, that you are wanting something different, and that you are ready for it. Take time to accept this and allow this knowingness to sink in. This first step tends to be the scariest because it means there will be change, and change brings vulnerability and discomfort.
Step Two: Change Your Thoughts
Change the thoughts that materialized the situation you were in. Transform and elevate thoughts that were working against you. Thoughts like, "I am not enough." "I have to...," "I will never..." etc. into positive and optimistic thoughts. For example, if you are moving forward from an unhealthy relationship and think that you will not find better or anyone else who will love you, change your thoughts to create a different attitude and a different outcome, such as, "I deserve someone who will love and appreciate me," or "I am confident I will find the perfect person for me."
Step Three: Break Through Limitations
Connect with what no longer fits and why it does not fit -- do this with as much awareness as you possibly can. Focus on breaking patterns that are not working for you mentally, emotionally, spiritually, energetically and behaviorally, so you do not find yourself repeating cycles and getting the same outcome.
Step Four: Take Action
Take action and do things to help. For example, if you are moving into a new home prepare for it by purging what you no longer need, packing, hiring movers, changing your address and doing everything else needed for your move. This will help you stay organized, focused and optimistic as you accomplish small goals along the way.
Step Five: Stay Motivated
It is easy to get discouraged if you hit a roadblock that temporarily creates a pause or a slowing down in the flow of your transition. Focusing on the bigger picture will help you to stay motivated. Focusing on the knowingness that even though you had a relapse as you quit smoking cigarettes, it is okay because it was only one cigarette in comparison to the ten you used to smoke daily -- this will help you stay feeling good and positive and keep you in that frame of mind and attitude as well.
Step Six: Celebrate
Celebrate and reward yourself prematurely. Reward yourself by daydreaming and connecting with the new experiences that you will soon be having. Celebrate knowing that before you know it you will be resigning or cooking in your new kitchen or spending the money you will receive from a gig or having dinner with your new significant other, etc.
Step Seven: Adjust
Whenever there is any kind of change an adjustment is needed. You need time to adjust and familiarize yourself with the new and move beyond what is no longer there. If you experienced a break-up an adjustment period is needed to let go of the other person, your routine, rituals, allow your emotions to heal, etc. The same applies for getting a new job or moving into a new home or anything else.
Moving forward can be intimidating and scary, however, using these steps, even if not in order or completely, will help to make the process a more rewarding experience along the way and in the end.