5 Things That Happen When You Stay in a Job You Don’t Love

09/11/2016 08:10 pm ET Updated Apr 27, 2017
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Do you love going to work?

I’m going to guess no, because you’re reading this post. You want out, but you don’t know how to do it. You have bills to pay, right? Mouths to feed. It’s not like you can just give two weeks notice and walk out of hell and into your dream job. Pfft. I mean, who does that?

THOUSANDS of people do that. Everyday.

Droves of unhappy workers trade in their desk and stapler for a shiny new career all the time. We just don’t see it because we’re too busy suffering 8 to 10 hours a day at a job we don’t love, compromising ourselves spiritually, financially, and emotionally.

In a previous Gallop poll it was revealed that 70% of US employees were unhappy at work. SEVENTY PERCENT. That’s a lot of unhappy faces. If you’re one of them, read on.

When you’re unhappy at work, you start a chain of events that becomes progressively worse the longer you stay behind the desk. Your life becomes miserable. And the misery doesn’t go away. You wait for it to, but it won’t. Not until you walk out the door.

Here are 5 things that happen when you stay in a job you don’t love, and the remedy of what to do to rid yourself of the misery so you can live a genuinely happy life:

1) Your Heart Breaks

It’s a thin line between love and hate. When you have to wake up every day and go to a job you don’t love, that line between love and hate grows smaller. You start to question what life is all about. Is this it? Is this all there is? Just a commute and a paycheck? This is what I signed up for?

2) Your Relationships Suffer

As you question life and your place in it, you become angry. Who do you take your anger out on? The ones you love. You’re not nice. You lash out at those closest to you because they’re standing right there. They take the brunt of your anger until one by one your loved ones fall away and you find yourself alone.

3) You Become Mean and Bitter

You’ve seen mean and bitter people out there. They hate the world and everyone in it. Now you’re mean and bitter. You snap at others and become hateful. When you see happy people you secretly plot their death. It’s a horrible place to be.

4) You Blame Everyone Around You For Your Pain

When you’re stuck in a situation that makes you mean and bitter, you blame others for putting you there. But they didn’t put you there. You put yourself there. You made a series of choices that landed you where you are. If you want out you have to take responsibility for yourself and take action to get out. Bottom line, end of story.

5) You Slowly Die Inside

You’re awake and you’re breathing. You put one foot in front of the other every day, but that doesn’t mean you’re living. Your suffering is causing you so much pain that you’re actually dying inside. Your joy is gone. But instead of taking actions to get out, you take actions that keep you stuck.

If you’re reading this thinking, “Working somewhere I hate isn’t ruining my life. Pfft. That’s ridiculous.”

Perhaps. Perhaps…

But here’s the deal: Human psychology says that we as human beings need to experience and fill six specific human needs in positive ways in order to feel fulfilled and on purpose. One of those needs is GROWTH. Without growth, we die inside. Just like I said. We walk around numb and uncertain. We just…exist. Our lives become a circle of frustration. We go to work, come home, pay bills, go back to work, come home, pay more bills...

When the weekend comes, were “saved!”

When Monday comes, we’re screwed.

Where’s the joy? Where’s the excitement? If we have to wait for the weekend to experience joy, what kind of life are we really living?

You have a right to love what you do and get PAID for it. You don’t have to suffer working a job you don’t love. You really don’t. You tell yourself you do because the bills are piling up and your friends tell you it’s impossible to go after a passion or dream. Everyone else has to work a job they don’t love, so why should you be any different? They must be right.

You’re scared, too. If you leave your job, you’re ditching your favorite security blanket. Plus there’s that whole, “How am I supposed to support myself and my family if I leave my job to go chase a dream?”

Faith, baby. Faith. If you don’t have a drop of faith, you’ll always be stuck. You’ll always blame others. If you think faith isn’t part of the equation here, stop reading. This isn’t for you. This is only for those that are ready to reclaim their lives.

The Remedy:

You want out? For real and for true? DECIDE to get out. No more fluctuating back and forth, telling yourself horror stories of what might happen when you quit. No more telling yourself that what you have is “enough” when you know damn well it isn’t.

This isn’t going to be easy. Nothing ever is. But you have a choice right here and now: You can continue feeling the pain of doing what you DON’T love, or you can move forward feeling the joy-filled pain of doing something you DO love. Either way, it’s going to be uncomfortable. Either way, it’s going to be uncertain. But it’s worth every single twitch and burn.

Decide. Only you can put yourself where you truly want to be. No one else, you. Be brave. Take the leap. You’ll land on your feet. You always have.

(Joleene Moody is a former television reporter and anchor turned ghostwriter and aspiring screenwriter. Her mission? To get you to stop doing the things you hate. Visit her at www.joleenemoody.com.)

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