Sometimes when life becomes a struggle and you're wanting to improve the situation you're in, whether that be your health, your relationships, your finances, or whatever, it pays to interrupt the negative voices in your head with the right question. This one simple mental strategy can change the way you focus and ultimately change your life.
This idea of asking questions, and not just any questions, but the biggest, baddest, life-changer type, is probably one of the oldest techniques in the book for shifting your mindset and changing the way you operate in your day to day. Did you read that book, or did you miss that one?
Training your mind is how you'll pull out of your struggles. Let's start with a good one: What else is possible? This simple question, when posed to me by a coach recently, acted like someone ice skating over a dry-erase board with micro fleece cloths on their feet. Instantly all that crap inside my mind was gone, and I was focused on a still, quiet space of "possible."
At first wiping the slate clean might seem scary but it's the beginning of something wonderful, if you can give yourself permission to go there. Being in a state of possibility means you don't know yet. You don't have an answer yet you are feeling the feelings of excitement that go with what could be. You have to be okay with not knowing. That energy is what we need! That energy is infused with the power of manifestation.
The problem is that your conditioned mind likes to dwell on what needs fixing, what's wrong or what it doesn't like about a situation. So it sits and stews there, creating stress and hopelessness. No good answers come from that kind of mental state. It's a vicious cycle that drags you deeper into the black hole.
You have to flip the switch to more magical thinking and that's where asking a powerful question comes in handy. Some of my favorites: What else is possible? What if this were easy? If there were nobody left to upset or disappoint, who would I become?
These questions make you stop in your tracks. They shut up the left-thinking, analyzing, over-rationalizing brain and make room for creative ideas to emerge. They invite you to feel the answers. You have to get to nothing before something will move through. You have to Feng Shui inside your mind to make space for the good stuff to arrive.
Asking the question is the first step. Feeling the answer is the next. When you ask the big questions you connect with a part of you who already knows the answer. That inner guide sends the messages and answers back to you in the form of sensation and feelings. Since most of us haven't been trained in how to listen to our body for these messages we miss them, and end up looking outside of ourselves for answers to our problems.
The moment we cut off from this precious resource, we lose connection with how the Universe will give us the answers we seek.
Ask a question. Sit back and be in the still space of not knowing, of possibility... and then see what you feel. These sensations, thoughts, feelings, emotions and messages will be the language your inner guide is speaking to you with. It pays to learn that language. Every language student needs a teacher so seek one out. Start asking big questions. What if this was easy?
I invite you to join me in the comments with some of your favorite questions!
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