RELIGION
07/29/2015 03:19 pm ET

Mormon Mom: Church's Refusal To Accept Gay Boy Scout Leaders Is 'Tragedy'

“It’s like we take two steps forward, then three leaps backward."
<span>Jordan Montgomery did his&nbsp;</span><span>Eagle</span><span>&nbsp;Project at Ricky's Retreat, a local AIDS hospice. &
Wendy Montgomery
Jordan Montgomery did his Eagle Project at Ricky's Retreat, a local AIDS hospice.  He converted an old carport into an enclosed storage unit with built-in shelving.

After nine years and countless hours of service, Jordan Montgomery spent last Saturday completing the very last task he needed to become an Eagle Scout, the highest rank attainable for Boy Scouts.

For his project, the 17-year-old wanted to support Ricky’s Retreat, an AIDS hospice in his hometown of Bakersfield, California. He converted an old carport into an enclosed storage unit, a place where the hospice staff could store donated wheelchairs and hospital beds.

The building effort brought together volunteers from two very different parts of Montgomery’s life -- the members of the Mormon community that he was raised in and that sponsors his Boy Scouts troop, and members of the local LGBT community.

While his fellow troop members were accepting of Jordan after he came out, his mother Wendy Montgomery claims Mormon troop leaders didn’t always treat Jordan well. Some called him hurtful names, she said, and others made it tough for him to earn badges. It got so tough that the family switched scouting troops. 

The program ends when boys turn 18, at which point many apply to become scout leaders. Although he could have applied to become a leader, Wendy says Jordan plans to leave the scouting world after receiving his Eagle Scout badge.

“He’s just fought too hard to get this far and he’s done fighting,” Wendy said. “The church has made its position clear, that he’s seen as not good enough, unworthy. They don’t want him to be a part of their organization.”

Credit: Wendy Montgomery

The troop leader at Jordan's previous unit did not respond to a Huffington Post request for comment. Jordan's current Scoutmaster, Michael Phillips, said the family may have had bad experiences in the previous troop, but he doesn't know details about it. Since Jordan has been at his current troop, Phillips said, he hasn't discouraged him from participating in any activities.

"We’re all individuals in different troops and everyone has different ways they treat people," Phillips told HuffPost. "I'd hope everyone would be welcoming to all the boys that want to participate in scouting." 

The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day is the nation’s largest sponsor of scouting, according to the Associated Press, serving more than 427,000 boys in nearly 38,000 scout units. But that may soon change. In a statement, the church has announced that it is re-evaluating its links with the Boy Scouts in America program, after the national organization’s executive board voted on Monday to admit openly gay Scout leaders.

LDS church representatives said that they were “deeply troubled” by Monday’s decision. Senior leaders are meeting in August to decide whether to leave the BSA altogether.

“The Church has always welcomed all boys to its Scouting units regardless of sexual orientation. However, the admission of openly gay leaders is inconsistent with the doctrines of the Church and what have traditionally been the values of the Boy Scouts of America,” the church said in its statement.

The 45-12 vote, the result of years of introspection within the organization, prompted many gay Eagle Scouts to sign up for volunteer positions. However, church-affiliated troops are still free to exclude LGBT adults from leadership positions.

The United Methodist Church and the Roman Catholic Church, also significant sponsors of Boy Scouts programs, both endorsed the new policy. The Methodist Church is leaving decisions about accepting LGBT scout leaders up to individual church units. The Roman Catholic Church, although wary about the change, is “cautiously optimistic” about its religious exemptions.

Catholic Bishop Robert Guglielmone of Charleston, South Carolina, who helps manage Catholic scouting programs, said he doesn’t think the Roman Catholic church can cut ties with the BSA.

“I don't see as something that would happen," he told the AP. "We don't have the resources to set up those kind of programs on their own. We just have to see how it all plays out."

 

<span>Jordan Montgomery at&nbsp;</span><span>Scout</span><span>&nbsp;Day Camp in 2008.</span>
Wendy Montgomery
Jordan Montgomery at Scout Day Camp in 2008.

The LDS church, on the other hand, already runs a scouting program for young women. Utah-based conservative activist Gayle Ruzicka suggested the church may decide to create its own units for boys.

"There's not any reason why the church can't start their own boys' program — one that will teach the same things," she said.

When Wendy Montgomery heard about the church’s decision to re-examine its ties to the BSA, she said she felt caught off guard. 

"Why is my son OK being a gay scout at 17, but not [a gay scout leader] at 18 years old? What makes him different from one day to the next?" she asked. "This feels like a missed opportunity, where the church really could have shown an increase of love and inclusivity." 

“There are hundreds of gay kids out there who would be amazing scout leaders, and every bit as able and wonderful as straight scout kids. This is a tragedy that didn’t need to be,” she added.

 

<span>Wendy and Jordan Montgomery in 2010.</span>
Wendy Montgomery
Wendy and Jordan Montgomery in 2010.

The LDS church opposes gay marriage and believes acting on same-sex attractions is a sin. But in recent years, it has tried to find a balance between holding on to official church doctrine and softening its approach towards LGBT people.

The church was supportive in 2013 when the Boy Scouts’ executive board voted to lift the ban on gay youth. The catch was that the boys needed to abide by the church’s “standards of behavior” by remaining celibate.

The LDS church was also integral in helping Utah pass its nondiscrimination law, which bars discrimination in employment and housing based on sexual orientation and gender identity. But that support also came with a caveat -- the church wanted to make sure that religious organizations were exempt from the standards set forth in the law.

This balancing act doesn’t make much sense to Wendy. Her son doesn’t come to church with her family anymore, although the rest of the family is trying hard to remain active and "hold on" to their faith.

“It’s like we take two steps forward, then three leaps backward. It’s emotional whiplash,” she said. “I don’t know where my church is going with my son. ... It’s making it increasingly difficult to feel like we’re wanted or accepted when members of my family are left out.”

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