Check your list of New Year's resolutions. I bet it includes something about being healthier, something about saving more money or getting out of debt and something about taking up a hobby. There is probably nothing on your list about sex.
Why not? Can you have too much sex? Do you honestly think the sex you are having can't get any better than it is right now? If so, you should probably write a book. You'd make millions -- plus, keeping that kind of secret to yourself is just plain selfish.
Make 2013 the year you make your sex life a priority. Here are a few sexual resolutions to improve your life in and out of the bedroom.
Get to Know your Body. If you want your car to run better, you learn about what's under the hood. If you want to have more pleasurable sex, you learn about your body. Study up on your anatomy and learn what each part does. Then have some fun putting that knowledge to good use.
If you feel you might have a medical issue affecting your sex life, make now the time you bring it up to your doctor. I can't speak to a man's relationship with his doctor, but I know women can be intimidated to bring up sexual problems with doctors because we often enter the doctor's office under-informed. What better reason to learn about your body? If you go to your doctor armed with information and you still don't feel comfortable or you aren't being taken seriously, find a new doctor. Get the support you need so you can have the sex life you deserve.
Initiate More Sex. Stop me when this sounds familiar. You lie in bed next to your partner. The two of you are talking and laughing and you start to feel a bit turned on. You lean in and kiss him, thinking he'll get the hint and make the next move, but he doesn't. He turns over to go to sleep and you are left staring at the ceiling, wondering what you did wrong.
Stop waiting for your partner to initiate intimacy -- if you want to have sex, make it happen. Just like you would let your partner know if you want to go to dinner or take a trip, if you want to have sex, make your intentions known.
If you want to do a complete 180, resolve with your partner to have sex every night for the month of January. Sex will become a self-fulfilling prophecy, and you'll form a habit you will never want to break!
Think sexy. Ever have an important presentation to give at work? What do you do? You visualize how it is going to go, you think about what are you going to say, what you are going to wear. You keep the presentation on your mind and execute your vision. Why should sex be any different?
Paint the picture of an intimate night in your mind. Think about the lighting, the music. Imagine what you are going to wear, where the action is going to lead. Buy some new lingerie that makes you feel good about the way you look. Then, set the stage. Early in the day, write your lover a little note explaining what you want to do in a much -- or as little -- detail as you are comfortable with.
As far as the execution goes, well, that's up to you.
Build New Interests. One of the keys to ending a rut -- sexual or personal -- is to change your patterns, to break your routines. You will discover talents you didn't know you had. Stepping out of your box will boost your confidence and that confidence will make you feel sexier.
Breaking your routine is especially important for the single girl looking to meet someone new because she will change her crowd. If you are into yoga, try hot yoga. Love to bake? Take a cake decorating class. The point is to see some new faces and make some new connections -- you never know what might develop.
Now is the time to stop making excuses for a subpar sex life. Whether you are single or in a relationship, move intimacy to the top of your list of New Year's resolutions. Besides, sex is a great way to burn calories, it doesn't cost a cent and it's a lot of fun. Sounds like the ultimate resolution.