"This is not working out for me," is a hard thing to say. Yet it is the most constructive way to start the process of resolution.
You are not saying that this is wrong. You are not saying that your counterpart shouldn't have done it, or shouldn't do it. You are not blaming her. You are not intruding into her space. You are simply saying: "This is not working for me, I'd like to change it, and I'd like your help to do it."
Speaking in the first person, taking ownership for your experience and opinions are the secret of presenting confronting information in a constructive manner.
In the following video, you can find more information on how to do it:
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Readers: What is not working out for you about the way one of your colleagues is behaving, and what would make that collaboration better in your view?
Fred Kofman is Vice President at Linkedin. This post is part 9.1 of Linkedin's Conscious Business Program. To find the introduction and full structure of this program visit Conscious Business Academy. To stay connected and get updates, please join our Conscious Business Friends group. Follow Fred Kofman on LinkedIn here.