THE BLOG
12/02/2013 03:07 pm ET Updated Feb 01, 2014

It's Really Okay to Go at Your Own Pace

The past few months have been very exciting for me -- I launched my life coaching website as well as my new interview-style Internet radio talk show, Live.Love.Grow. I've missed you all though -- as we haven't been able to share ideas and thoughts over the past few months on this site. Although my intention was to write for HuffPost several times a month, during the fall season I found my days being filled with all the new and exciting (and sometimes overwhelming) responsibilities of launching a new business and radio talk show. As I looked at the calendar and realized that I hadn't written to all of you since September (had it really been that long?!), I found myself saying things like:

"I took on too much and now I'm going to fail at everything I do."
"How could I let all this time go by without writing to you all?"
"I'm truly disappointed in myself. I didn't follow through with my plan to write articles bimonthly."

As the thoughts swirled, I felt really disappointed and angry with myself. Then I had a realization -- I was moving forward with my writing -- my pace had just slowed down as I moved into a new stage of my business. Sure, my pace of writing had changed, but my intention to continue writing had never changed. And now had felt like the right moment to write to you all.

Can you relate? Maybe you want to start a new project, or lose weight, or change job, or end an unfulfilling relationship -- but you just haven't found the inspiration for the project, or lost those 10 pounds, or found the new job, or broken up with your significant other quite yet. I'm here to tell you are right where you are supposed to be. It's true. You are going at the pace that is normal for you and you will get there.

Now here's the key: as you go at your own pace, let's make sure that you are moving forward. Maybe you are walking slowly, or taking the scenic route, or jogging, or maybe you are even sprinting down the path towards your goal. The pace will change as you go up and down the hills of life. The simple way to keep yourself on track is to check in with yourself once a week and ask, "Am I moving closer to my goal or farther away from it?" When you ask yourself this question, please be sure to take care of yourself -- this is not a time to beat yourself up for not already being at your goal. It's just a time to check in and make sure that you are still on the pathway heading towards your goal. And if you feel like you are on the sidelines, then maybe that's right where you need to be for now. When you are ready, though, put on your shoes, get up and take that first step.

As always, I'd love to hear your comments in the section below!

Xo,

Erika