08/04/2014 07:10 am ET Updated Oct 04, 2014

Don't Forget Your Manners: 'Peas And Tank You'

There are days that I turn on the TV and I am appalled at what is going on in our society. Every day the news shows us another story where someone did something so awful. It seems so many people have lost the values that many of us were brought up with. I have to wonder -- where is the responsibility? Where is the discipline? Where is the leadership? Where are the standards?

We have responsibilities as the matriarchs of our families. I believe we can make a difference by our involvement within our family. We are the mature spokesperson within the family unit. Take time talking to your grandchildren about VALUES. Every day there is a life experience where you can bring up a value word to expound upon. WE are a powerful group of women. WE are a positive force in every way.

One of the best words to use with our grandchildren is the word STANDARD. A person with standards has good values. We grammas have to have a mind-set to use daily experiences to point out issues. We can even do this with our youngest grandchildren as they learn to say "peas" and "tank you." We are not disciplining. We are speaking or showing in a grandmotherly manner. I am lucky and so are my grandchildren because I am blessed with that type of personality. I do not criticize. Why? Because I do not like to be criticized! I don't know anyone who likes to be criticized, so I try and think how I felt at their age. And then act in an appropriate manner to get my point across.

Always remember... we are of a different generation and that is powerful. We have experienced everything they are going to experience. We know the emotional feelings of having the courage to take a stand. And on the other side of the coin the emotional feeling of following the crowd when we knew we should not. I try and relate a story of my life at their age. Sometimes my stories are positive about my decision. Sometimes my stories are negative about my decision. In both cases I end my story with a VALUE and a STANDARD. For example, when I purchase a present for one of my grandchildren, no matter their age, I tie it to a true story of a happening in my life--a story that sets an example. That a gift has meaning, which is the value called love. A gift costs money, which is the value called work. It makes me more real. I am not perfect either. Grandchildren can relate. We grandmothers should use the word value when talking to our grandchildren. It is just the way my mind has always worked. Nothing happens in life just because. There is a cause and an effect.

Over the next few days I will focus on some values that I think are really important to share with our grandchildren. I hope you'll share some of your stories with all of us that show how you teach your grandchildren about values.

Do something GOOD today: Remember to say "peas" and "tank you."

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