01/25/2013 11:56 am ET Updated Mar 27, 2013

The Imperfections of Perfect

When our most talented singers are afraid to sing live in public at the risk of not sounding perfect, we may have an issue.

Beyonce practically pulled a Milli Vanilli on us. Sure, her prerecording captured her own voice, but as an audience we still felt similarly cheated. I was disappointed that on one of the most celebrated days in American politics, all Beyonce could share was a dramatic performance holding a mic. (Though she did look fierce and I loved those green earrings!)

More and more singers are lip-syncing at concerts and events to avoid any technical issues, and deliver what they think is a "perfect performance." To that same tune, more models and actors are demanding airbrushing in print magazines and Botox and plastic surgery to remove any real signs of aging. Their faces may look plastic and puffy, but at least no wrinkles or "imperfections" remain. What's wrong with this picture?

The human experience has become the manicured experience. We are trying to create a perfect experience, but with that we lose our real sense of self. When we live authentically, we are at peace with imperfections and accept them. We are not completely in charge and in control of every moment. We put our best efforts out there and roll with the punches.

Kelly Clarkson cared more about enjoying her moment in the inauguration spotlight and doing her best, and because of that, her performance was incredible. Her courage to be present, sing authentically and have fun was inspiring -- and a home run!

When we try to be perfect, we become disconnected to people, and most importantly ourselves. I would love to see more celebrities and people, get more real. Be who you are. Live simply. Stop the obsessive planning and precautions. End the recording, pick up a real microphone and share your true voice.