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05/27/2016 11:52 am ET Updated May 27, 2017

Courting Season Is Better Than Cuffin' Season

I'm a HUGE basketball fan. For as long as I can remember, I've loved the game of basketball. I love basketball almost as much as Mitch loved the hustle game in Paid In Full. However, there is one thing I do love more than basketball = GOD. God is the dopest thing since the 1980s and he will never go out of style. God's love and mercy is everlasting and will help change your life, if you believe in Him.

Even as believers, sometimes we take control of our destiny, especially in the love and relationships department. If God is the Head Coach in our lives, at times, we tend to get trigger happy and heat check ourselves when making dating decisions. We've all been there before. We trust our eyes more than our hearts. We listen to our hearts more than our head. We try to outsmart the dating system rather than giving everything to God.

For the serious brother or sister, YOU think you've found "the one." They get a checkmark for every thing on your "list." You praise God for finally sending your soulmate, but everything falls apart because you really don't know each other. Or maybe you take the more casual approach to dating and you just "wanna have some fun." Once the fun is over, you feel empty because the temporary excitement and fulfillment is no longer present. It's like eating a piece of delicious candy, and the taste and flavor evaporates within seconds.

I remember while an undergrad at the University of Michigan, young singles would search for a "Cuffin' Season" buddy, aka someone of the opposite sex to keep them warm during the cold, winter months. For the kids reading this article, this was 10 years before the Netflix & Chill movement. We called it "cupcaking." While all of this may sound very tempting, only God can bring you total warmth and glory every day of the year.

After being in multiple relationships, I have a better understanding of what I want. I want what God wants for me, not what I want for myself. No more shooting jump shots just to see if the ball will go into the hoop. In order for me to find "My Boo," I have to trust God 100% that she will be revealed when the time is right. God's triangle offense of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit is undefeated. It has won more rings than Bill Russell and Phil Jackson combined.

So, if dating and Cuffin' Season hasn't worked for you, perhaps try a new season: Courting Season. Courting is dating with a defined purpose and intention, centered around God's will. I understand courting may not be sexy on the Snap or IG, but it's the way to go, whenever you're ready. The reward is much sweeter. God will support the mission and see it through as intended. He will give you the green light, and you will shoot the right shots at the right time. Timing is everything. Trust is needed. Courting Season is much better than Cuffin' Season. It's like Cleveland Cavaliers J.R. Smith (Courting Season) over New York Knicks J.R. Smith (Cuffin' Season). Sorry Knicks fans...I'm sure you would sadly agree with me. Swish is my guy, but there's a BIG difference!