Many years ago a friend of mine once told me how I mothered all our friends. I remember feeling initially insulted, "put off" in some way. She actually said "Jimmy, you mother us all, more than you know." And I thought to myself, "Really? Couldn't you have just said something like, Jimmy, you father us all?"
Anyhow, that innocent remark has often re-visited me over the years, and with the Great Gift of Mother Time, I have been able to see and accept those words in the loving way they were spoken. They have become for me somewhat of a gentle reminder, something to live up to, and I now feel honored when I'm able to show up in friendship in what might be perceived as "a motherly way."
Never stronger have I felt the presence of "A Mothers Love," than I did today.
When I offered to take my brother to his 8am dentist appointment, of course I could see my mother smiling above in heaven. "You are such a good son!" I imagine she would be thinking. After I dropped him off, I went to get my morning coffee, and while i was waiting for my caffeine, I noticed a young man sitting by himself at a table nearby.
I asked "How are you?" and he replied rather curtly, "I've had better days."
For some reason, I didn't let his answer stop me from asking "Why?"
You'd think when he said "I'm not going to go into it with you" I would've stopped then and there, but I didn't. After all, I'm a firm believer in never knowing when or where our next great teacher is going to appear, and I thought for a moment, he might be mine.
Although I may have felt a bit "put off," ( like being told 'I mothered all our friends'), I let the temporary rejection quickly pass, and I went ahead and asked his name.
With this answer, his heavy heart became even clearer to me, so I surrendered my inquisition, but not before telling him I thought he had an amazing mother. "Anyone who would name their son Cortis, well, that is a woman I would love to know!" I said, and I proceeded to leave the coffee shop.
As I drove away, I wished I had stayed long enough to give Cortis a copy of my CD, but decided to move on and off I went to my favorite spot overlooking the ocean to enjoy my coffee. I took the usual pictures I so often take of that sacred view, this time with the thought of a young man named Cortis in my mind.
I began randomly sharing the photos with family and friends, wishing they too could savor such a view. I had just taken the most beautiful picture and hit "send" to my brother, when all of a sudden, out of the blue, Cortis re-appeared.
Like an apparition, he walked over to me and said very quietly, "Thank you for those kind words you said about my mother."
I didn't realize what I'd said back in the coffee shop, or that even bringing up his mother might have been the source of his sadness, but when he told me "yesterday was her birthday" I knew she was no longer with us.
Maybe it comes from having lost a parent, but on some strange and unspoken level, once you have said goodbye to the one who brought you here, it's as if you know intuitively when others have suddenly joined that club. He showed me a picture of his two and a half year old son, and I saw the little angel who would never know his grandmother, with eyes that began to well for a woman I too would never know.
I told him I thought our mothers had brought us together, perhaps to remember them in that very moment, and I handed him the CD I wished I'd given him just thirty minutes before.
I said, "When you can Cortis, please listen to track #3, it's a song my brother wrote for all of us who have lost our mothers."
As I walked away, I looked out into the great ocean before me and felt the purity of a mother's love. I could see her face in each glistening ray of light, and I smiled back as the words that once insulted me, now showered my entire being with a healing glow:
"Jimmy, You mother all our friends."
In fact, I believe we all do,
so much more than we may ever know . . .
Our 2024 Coverage Needs You
It's Another Trump-Biden Showdown — And We Need Your Help
The Future Of Democracy Is At Stake
Our 2024 Coverage Needs You
Your Loyalty Means The World To Us
As Americans head to the polls in 2024, the very future of our country is at stake. At HuffPost, we believe that a free press is critical to creating well-informed voters. That's why our journalism is free for everyone, even though other newsrooms retreat behind expensive paywalls.
Our journalists will continue to cover the twists and turns during this historic presidential election. With your help, we'll bring you hard-hitting investigations, well-researched analysis and timely takes you can't find elsewhere. Reporting in this current political climate is a responsibility we do not take lightly, and we thank you for your support.
Contribute as little as $2 to keep our news free for all.
Can't afford to donate? Support HuffPost by creating a free account and log in while you read.
The 2024 election is heating up, and women's rights, health care, voting rights, and the very future of democracy are all at stake. Donald Trump will face Joe Biden in the most consequential vote of our time. And HuffPost will be there, covering every twist and turn. America's future hangs in the balance. Would you consider contributing to support our journalism and keep it free for all during this critical season?
HuffPost believes news should be accessible to everyone, regardless of their ability to pay for it. We rely on readers like you to help fund our work. Any contribution you can make — even as little as $2 — goes directly toward supporting the impactful journalism that we will continue to produce this year. Thank you for being part of our story.
Can't afford to donate? Support HuffPost by creating a free account and log in while you read.
It's official: Donald Trump will face Joe Biden this fall in the presidential election. As we face the most consequential presidential election of our time, HuffPost is committed to bringing you up-to-date, accurate news about the 2024 race. While other outlets have retreated behind paywalls, you can trust our news will stay free.
But we can't do it without your help. Reader funding is one of the key ways we support our newsroom. Would you consider making a donation to help fund our news during this critical time? Your contributions are vital to supporting a free press.
Contribute as little as $2 to keep our journalism free and accessible to all.
Can't afford to donate? Support HuffPost by creating a free account and log in while you read.
As Americans head to the polls in 2024, the very future of our country is at stake. At HuffPost, we believe that a free press is critical to creating well-informed voters. That's why our journalism is free for everyone, even though other newsrooms retreat behind expensive paywalls.
Our journalists will continue to cover the twists and turns during this historic presidential election. With your help, we'll bring you hard-hitting investigations, well-researched analysis and timely takes you can't find elsewhere. Reporting in this current political climate is a responsibility we do not take lightly, and we thank you for your support.
Contribute as little as $2 to keep our news free for all.
Can't afford to donate? Support HuffPost by creating a free account and log in while you read.
Dear HuffPost Reader
Thank you for your past contribution to HuffPost. We are sincerely grateful for readers like you who help us ensure that we can keep our journalism free for everyone.
The stakes are high this year, and our 2024 coverage could use continued support. Would you consider becoming a regular HuffPost contributor?
Dear HuffPost Reader
Thank you for your past contribution to HuffPost. We are sincerely grateful for readers like you who help us ensure that we can keep our journalism free for everyone.
The stakes are high this year, and our 2024 coverage could use continued support. If circumstances have changed since you last contributed, we hope you'll consider contributing to HuffPost once more.
Support HuffPostAlready contributed? Log in to hide these messages.