When you find yourself thinking, "if only I had a friend who was a hair colorist she could come over now and quickly do my roots before this important meeting with Obama," you realize the importance of having different kinds of friends who fill different types of needs. And though it sounds like I am, I'm not saying you should be opportunistic and get friends who can fill holes like so many geranium plants. No! Friendship is the original two-way street, it must be giving and getting, but when you think of the kind of friends everyone needs in their life, you tend to think ... of who can fill holes... like so many geranium plants. Of course I'm speaking for me and my life (and holes). I'm a 45 year old female, writer, mother of a fourth grade girl, city dweller, liberal, dog (crazy) person, cultural but not religious Jewish person who likes to go to bed early, eat Balance Bars for lunch, doesn't look pulled together and tells the truth. If I were a farmer in Iowa or a Las Vegas showgirl, I think my group of must have friends would be close to useless but let's for a minute pretend everyone is just like me.
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Julie Klam is the author of Friendkeeping: A Field Guide to the People You Love, Hate, and Can't Live Without [Riverhead, $25.95].