01/14/2014 02:22 pm ET Updated Mar 16, 2014

Perspective & Power

Perspective is amazingly powerful. Perspective determines how you react, or not, to every situation in your life. You alone hold the power. When you endure a hardship, a loss, a tough time, you determine the outlook you will have. You can make a decision to focus on the positive that is also abundantly around, to focus on the support and love all around you. What each of us must come to realize is that this is a choice. We could also choose to wallow in misery, in pain, in loss, to focus on what isn't there anymore, what has been taken from us.

Perspective is deciding: Is the glass half full or is it half empty? Do you curse the rain or find gratitude in the fact that it brings us flowers? When one door closes, does a window open? The way you choose to view each of these situations is your perspective.

I choose half full. I find gratitude in the falling rain. I know that when a door closes, a window will always open. Choosing these perspectives give me peace, they give me serenity, they provide me with strength. Things happen to each of us that hurt us, challenge us, cause us pain. I have found that with each, you have a choice. You can allow the hurt, the challenges, the pain, define you, or you can define them.

I am the captain of my life's ship, I know that I set the course. There may be unforeseen storms, waves, unforeseen accidents --it is how to proceed in the face of these adversities. It's not always easy, there's not necessarily a plan -- but if you choose to focus on the good, the positive, if you choose hope, you come out not letting those adversities define you.

Perspective is amazingly powerful. Which way will you choose to view your world? Is life what happens to you or is life what you choose to make it? I choose to hold the power.