07/30/2015 03:30 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

Weeding Out Your Wedding Nightmares

The original version of this article appeared on The Broke Ass Bride.


The recurring wedding nightmare I hear about, over and over again, is that none of your guests are having a good time. They hate the food, they're not dancing, they're not talking to each other, they're ignoring the candy buffett/photo booth/chocolate fountain. You watch in horror as they stand around and stare at each other, and at you, with deep regret and condemnation. You wake up in a cold sweat (again) at 4:00 a.m. One thought goes through your head: It's going to be the worst wedding, ever. All your hard work over the past few months, your beautiful vision of the day, all for naught. YOU. WILL. FAIL.

Instead of anticipating the day, you're stuck future-tripping over, dreading all the horrible things that could - I mean, will - occur.

Okay, This is 10 years of wedding planning experience talking to you right now: Things might not go entirely according to plan. But all of your guests having a bad time at your wedding? With the one or two exceptions that you can name -- because you know how they are -- It's not going to happen.

(yes, it will, you're thinking at me)

No, it won't. Why? Because you have gathered your favorite people, some of whom you haven't seen for years, in one room. As much as you're looking forward to seeing them, they are looking forward to seeing you, and seeing each other. And that's what they are going to do, and have a damn good time doing it.You know I'm right.

(they won't like anything, you mumble in your head)

Not true, but your guests will follow your lead. If you're having fun, they're going to have fun. So, open the photo booth by dragging a couple of bridesmaids into it. Grab your brother and attack the candy buffet. Go up to the bar and order your signature cocktail. Be the first one on the dance floor, and the last one off of it. Tell everyone how glad you are that they came. You created this wonderful day, you're marrying the love of your life, and you're surrounded by everyone you both love. That's something to look forward to. And when you when you get there, enjoy it, all of it, and your guests will, too. I promise. So, when you start to freak out, take a deep, deep breath and say out loud: "This is going to be fun." Because it is.

Seriously, who doesn't turn into a giddy 3-year old at the sight of a candy buffet?