It feels good as a parent when someone praises your child and tells you, "What a smart child you have!" doesn't it? What if I told you, this kind of praise could actually have a negative effect on your child? As an educator, I have been studying the work of Dr. Carol Dweck, a Stanford psychology professor who wrote the book, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, published in 2006. Her work has been "going viral" so to speak, in the education community. Why would this be interesting to you as a parent? Because Dr. Dweck's decades of research has shown that how we praise children can affect how they view themselves. That how we respond to children plays a key role in motivation, achievement and can help foster the type of mindset they develop. In fact, her research suggests that an emphasis on intellect or talent can actually lead to a child's fear of failure, feedback and challenges. In other words, some children may fear failing so much that they choose the easy way out, may not take an interest in personal growth and refuse to take on challenges, skills that may not lead to a productive adulthood. While her work centers around teachers and the classroom, as parents you are your child's primary teachers. After becoming more familiar with Dr. Dweck's research, I now think twice about calling a child "smart."
Dr. Dweck's work describes two types of mindsets, a fixed mindset and a growth mindset. Praising a child's intelligence, i.e. "You are so smart!" fosters a fixed mindset. It suggests that one's intellectual ability is inherent, that one only has a certain amount of intelligence and cannot change it. In a fixed mindset, mistakes are viewed as failures. Children may believe they are dumb and just do not have the talent to master a particular task. As a result, children may only seek activities that they are good at to reinforce and prove their intelligence, and avoid being challenged. The importance of learning or trying something new may become secondary.
On the opposite end is a growth mindset, the belief that intelligence can develop through education and effort. When we praise for effort, children believe they can get better at anything as long as they are persistent and dedicated. Dr. Dweck's research shows that children with a growth mindset were more likely to persevere through setbacks, work harder, seek effective learning strategies and outperform those with a fixed mindset.
In an article published last year, "Carol Dweck Revisits the 'Growth Mindset'", Dr. Dweck states that in general, people are a mix of the two mindsets, and that even though we may say we have a growth mindset, our actions can prove otherwise. Even now, I catch myself complimenting children on their talent and intellect. It is a hard habit to break. In the article, Dr. Dweck states that since her original work was published, one of the most common misconceptions about a growth mindset was simply thinking it was all about praising and recognizing effort. Certainly effort is critical for student achievement, but it is not the only thing. The article also states that children need more than just sheer effort to learn and improve. They need to learn different strategies and hear praise about the process of how they got their results.
To change my thinking, I have to change my language. Here are some examples of what you can say to foster a growth mindset in your child:
"What did you learn today?"
"What mistake did you make that taught you something?"
"What did you try hard at today?"
"I like the way you tried all kinds of strategies on that math problem until you finally got it right."
"Everyone learns in a different way. Let's keep trying to find the way that works for you."
"The point isn't to get it all right now. The point is to grow your understanding step by step. What can you do next?"
(Quotes from Mindset by Dr. Carol S. Dweck.)
With parents and teachers on the same page, developing a Growth Mindset in your child should be promising. What do you think about the concept of a developing a Growth Mindset in your child? Please leave me a comment below.
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