05/13/2014 01:19 pm ET Updated Jul 13, 2014

7 Habits Parents Should Not Start

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New parents usually start out not knowing what to do. They find it easier to go back to their old ways of living life before their baby arrived. These choices often don't work once they have children and make life more difficult for the whole household. Raising a family is lots of fun, even on the worst days. And on those days, you can still find enjoyment too. I think that when parents use their instincts along with knowledge from experts, it helps them to become confident. Here are seven habits that parents should not start so their parenting journey is one of ease.

1. Micromanaging Others: Not everyone is going to do things exactly like you do when they're helping. But when you do let others help you, let them do it without feeling like you're looking over their shoulder.

2. Ignoring Help: Some parents do not have any clue that they need help. An unfortunate sign that will let you know that you do need some assistance is when you begin to feel burned out. Ask for help because otherwise it's going to lead to complete exhaustion.

2. Living Fearfully: This is about being afraid to use your own parenting instincts and worrying about everything that is happening in your day. The fearful parent is afraid to socialize now that they have a child and worried that their child might get sick. You can work your way into an unhappy zone and feel stuck because you have no balance in your life.

4. Second-Guessing Yourself: One major aspect of living fearfully is second-guessing yourself. Instincts are deep and very important for parents. Sometimes you might have the answers, but you doubt yourself. You think you're wrong even though your gut is helping you make the right decision. Out of fear, you go the opposite way.

5. Overloading on Products: Products are not the things children are interested in. They are interested in the moments they spend with their parents. Give more of yourself than the things you can buy.

6. Living Chaotically: Having too many products also builds roomfuls of clutter, which leaves less space for family activity. More space around the house will create a calmer upbringing. When nobody knows where their shoes are it creates chaos. Instead, create order and balance. Children need parents to teach them and give them a balanced life so when they go into the world they can manage the ups and downs.

7. Limiting Your Children's Freedom at Home: Some parents restrict the play area space to one small section of the house. In my experience, children that have the freedom to play and explore throughout the house learn more. There's a lot to see at home. Tell your kids a story about each item they're looking at. Also, read with them in every room. If you're reading to them in their bedroom only that is where they think that they should read. Giving them the opportunity to read and play in each room (as long as it's safe) will make them more socially skilled and braver when they go out into the world.

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