05/18/2015 11:14 am ET Updated May 18, 2016

Gay Men and Bottom Shaming (VIDEO)

Bottoming or any other traditionally "feminine" behaviors easily cast gay men into a second-rate citizenship within a community that has already been made to feel second-rate at a baseline. If, logically, the math doesn't seem to add up, why do we continue to tease and put down our own?

In my latest video I break down the psychological nuts and bolts of why we tend to label and judge sexual roles and the gay men who fill them -- pun intended. I describe how this common practice can be limiting, both individually and collectively, as well as what we can do to challenge bottom shaming so that we can all grow, heal, and have better sex.

Heels up!

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