It seems, pushing 50, that I've turned a corner where sex has to be taken more seriously. Apparently I'm going to have to suit up, cleat up and step up my game in order to stay on the field.
Case in point. The other night I stopped my husband, Henry, in the midst of our mating ritual.
"What are you doing?" I asked.
"I'm kissing you," he replied.
"But why are you kissing me so softly?" I demanded.
"I'm being gentle," he explained.
"I want you to be gentle in life, but not in bed," I instructed.
Henry groaned exasperatedly.
This is an ongoing issue. I'm always telling Henry I want fiery passion even though he can hear everything I do in the bathroom. I can be exhausting. Be glad you're not married to me. I thought Henry might just take a rain check.
Instead he handled my request by sweeping me into some surprisingly athletic lovemaking.
Where's he been hiding that? I thought.
While most of me was in the heat of the moment, a sliver of me, probably my left cerebellum, kind of floated above us and admired his vigor and endurance. Not bad for a 53-year-old man. Actually, not bad for a man of any age.
But this is when things began to take a turn for the worse for me.
In one position my wrists began to hurt the way they do when I hold a downward dog too long in yoga. My left hip popped out of joint, then back in. My breathing escalated and my lungs began to protest.
Lungs to Me: What do you think you're doing? You sit at a desk eight hours a day and walk around the park twice a week. We're not in shape for this kind of stuff? You can't expect us to to keep up!
Me to Lungs: Just hang in there, okay. Henry's in his 50s for Godsakes, how much longer can he last?!
Lungs to Me: Who knows! You insulted his manhood and goaded him into a virtuoso performance, you asshat! Oh no, I think I sprained my bronchi.
Vagina to Lungs: Lungs, I'm almost there, don't fail me now!
Lungs to Vagina: Oh, sure, it's always about you, isn't it? You and your damned orgasms! What do we get out of this besides a potential embolism? And aren't you in menopause anyway?!
Vagina to Lungs: Exactly! Menopause makes me have to try harder, so suck it up!!
Heart to Lungs and Menopausal Vagina: Would you guys shut the f#%k up, you're giving me fibrillations!
Me to Heart: No one has heart disease in my family, you're just lazy.
Heart to Me: Well maybe if you treated me to something more taxing than paraplegic water aerobics I could handle this sudden, unfortunate uptick in your sexual exertions!
Clitoris to Everyone: Stop your yammering bitches! Our OB-Gyn told me that I'm an "average-sized" clitoris, okay? Not like Shannon's friend Caprice whose apparently massive clitoris orgasms when she sneezes. I'm just average! I have to concentrate!
Mouth to Me: Thannon, Thannon over here! I haf cotton-mouf. No saliva. Sahara dessert in here! Too much panting and breathing. I'm parched!
"Honey?" I query my masterful and apparently superiorly conditioned husband.
"I know thith might be an inconvenient thime, but do you think maybe ..."
"What do you need. Anything, just tell me!"
"Could you? ... go get me a drink of water?"
Silence in which you could hear fiery passion snuffed out like a mafia soldier who slept with an undercover Fed. Be careful what you wish for in bed at 50. You jutht might get it. Now I'm off to do 1000 squaths, before Henry tradeth me in for a newer model.
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