As parents one of our main concerns is ensuring the safety and security of our children. With the occurrences of bullying, abuse and abductions happening more frequently, and hitting closer to home, how do we empower our kids to navigate and thrive in their environment with a sense of confidence, certainty and self-esteem?
Empowering their Intuition should be considered an important first step. Intuition is highly efficient and effective survival tool. It is a multi-faceted, multi-dimensional wisdom that guides us to our highest level of evolutionary possibility. It is the voice of our highest wisdom and we are constantly and continuously directed by it. Our children are already linked to it, we as parents simply have to remember that we are as well.
Children are "feeling beings" -- not "thinking beings."
From birth to about the age of 12, children have no energetic filter system yet developed in their brain. They do not possess the higher intellectual power of discernment or conscious selection. Because of this lack of intellectual development, children experience the world through their "feeling intelligence" and interpret and navigate their environment through that sensory awareness. A recent study by The University of Washington revealed that children from a very young age make sense of their outer world and their place in it, through relating to the feelings of their inner world.
When we encourage this connection to the feelings communicated via this inner landscape, we empower our children to trust their impressions and instincts and take action accordingly. Thus empowering them with a sense of ease, well-being and confidence that most adults to do not even possess.
Five tips for supporting intuition in your children.
#1. Start using your own Intuition.
Start setting the example of being someone who knows about your own guidance system and let your child know that they have their own system as well. If you develop the belief that you possess an inner wisdom that can and will guide you to any solution or outcome you seek, your sense of inner security will rub off on them.
#2. Cultivate a personal energetic "time-out."
Take a few minutes every day to cultivate your own private quiet time. This allows you to reconnect to the feeling and resonance of your own inner voice. Morning meditation is especially powerful in balancing all of the intelligence systems of the body that will connect you with that inner guidance.
Insist on time during the day when your children are free of all technology or scheduled things to do, and simply allow them to create, draw, day dream, play with their pets or look at the clouds. Intuition thrives when there is energetic room to create and imagine.
#3. Be real with your kids.
Because children are "sensing" beings they can tell when you are saying one thing and feeling another; these mixed messages cause confusion and uncertainty. If you are unhappy or worried about something, without going into detail, gently admit your feelings. Assure the child that your feelings have nothing to do with them, and that it's not their job to make it better for you. Let them know that your guidance system will help you find a solution that will allow you to feel clear and certain once again.
This degree of energetic integrity allows a child to feel safe in trusting that what he is sensing from you is in alignment with what you have told him to be true and shifts him out of fear and worry and into greater security and well being.
#4. Honor what your child says he is sensing or feeling.
Be aware of when you diminish or dismiss what your child is feeling or declaring about a certain situation.
A child might say, "I'm cold, or I'm tired or I'm not hungry" and a parent will dismiss it by saying, "No you're not -- you're fine." Or the child might be hesitant or stand offish around a certain person, or say, "I don't like that person." (Known or unknown) and the parent will disregard that uncertainty by forcing the child to "be polite" and engage with that person.
In these moments the inner feelings that a child is experiencing are deemed as incorrect and they are taught not to trust what they are experiencing. This pattern of being told that what they are sensing is wrong, breaks the link to trusting their inner guidance and trains them to begin looking to external validation to feel secure.
Honoring your child's impressions encourages their self-esteem, self-trust and their ability to apply self- direction.
#5. Engage in creative solution finding.
Just as you have your morning energetic time, use their bedtime to engage in creative solution finding. The time just before sleep is especially effective to engage in cultivating creative/intuitive solutions to whatever may be concerning them. (Do not try to find a solution in the middle of a melt down or temper tantrum) It is beneficial to start making this a regular practice before there are any major problems to solve; as there will be a momentum that you can apply in real time.
Instead of reading stories about other children and their adventures, encourage your kids to create stories about themselves, your family or their circle of friends. Allow them to make themselves the hero/heroine of their tale and creatively discover solutions to their current concerns. Invite them to use their imagination (which is an aspect of intuition) to become their own problem solver.
Ask questions that engage their broader perspective. Questions like, "What do you think the best solution is to this problem?" or "How can we make this a good situation for everyone?"
Do not offer your opinion; simply ask empowered questions that will support them in discovering empowered answers. Then support them in applying these solutions.This is an effective way to help them create positive situations with family, friends and other people they may come into contact with throughout their day. This win-win component is another aspect of intuition that cultivates the best outcome for everyone involved.
We've all got it.
Everyone has the natural ability to use their intuition to serve them in powerful ways. It is not a supernatural skill gifted to some but not to others. When we accept this simple yet powerful understanding, we allow our intuitive intelligence to guide and direct us to our highest good.
Putting these tips to use can be an easy and fun way to encourage and develop Intuition in you and your children. Developing this natural skill can be a deeply rewarding adventure for everyone in your family that guides them to greater levels of happiness, security and well-being.
Simone Wright, 'The Evolutionary Mind Coach for Elite Performers and Visionary Leaders", is the author of First Intelligence: Using the Science and Spirit of Intuition. She uses her intuitive skills to assist in police investigations, missing children's cases and corporate business strategies. She has appeared on international radio and television and been featured on The Oprah Winfrey Show. Visit her online at : www.simonewright.com