12/19/2014 04:33 pm ET Updated Feb 18, 2015

7 Thoughts to Resist if You want to Go Big in your business and life.

Did you know that your success is directly linked to your thoughts about yourself? Unfortunately, most people's self-image picture is incomplete and is made up of negative statements, emotions and reactions to life experiences and events. Like a movie, our mind puts these awful events on replay, as a constant reminder of failure and disappointment.

After years of being told the wrong messages, most people don't believe they can be successful.

What happens is they become full of excuses as to why success can't happen for them, and they say things like:

"I don't have a college degree"
"I'm a single mother"
"I'm too old"
"I'm too young"
"I'm not smart enough"
"I'm not pretty enough"
or even "I'm too pretty and no one takes me seriously."

When you make a commitment to step up and go big, many things will pop up in your life...all kinds of resistance may show up and give you plenty of reasons to shrink back safely into your comfort zone.

The resistance may come from many familiar sources...sometimes it's your friends and family or like I mentioned earlier it could be your own thoughts.

You'll hear things like...

"Oh just who do you think you are?!" or
"What makes you so much different from everyone else?" or
"I don't deserve this..."
"What will people think?"
"I don't want money to ruin me"
"You're changing, and I don't like it"

All of these statements are sabotaging your success. No one can hold you back and stop you from going big...only yourself.

It doesn't matter your upbringing or situation. You are in control of your own success. In order to get the results you desire, you must first learn how to resist negative thoughts that can stop you in your success tracks.

Let's look at seven thoughts or actions that could be stopping you from going big in your business and life.

Bad thought #1: Negatively paranoid about success. Thoughts that make you worry about failing will cause you to shrink back to what's comfortable instead of taking risks.

Good thought: Many times you can allow your mind to be flooded with all the wrong thoughts, like "What if I fail?!" Instead, next time ask yourself, "What if I succeed?!" Then allow yourself to conjure up images of you succeeding. Let those thoughts linger until you're able to accept them as a real possibility.

Bad Thought #2:
Being satisfied with the status quo...although you often say you want BIG success. Often, many people say they want success but deep down in their hearts they are just comfortable where they are and fight to stay the same. If you've ever scoffed at the idea of grinding harder to achieve your dream...if you've ever said, "it doesn't take all that" when presented with a game plan for success, then you may be struggling with moving past mediocrity.

Good Thought:
When you're ready to do big things, you have to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Make a decision to meet your goals and commit to doing what ever it takes. Be persistent in overcoming the obstacles. Success is difficult, it's not a straight line, and it never works out like you originally planned it. The go big pursuit will make you uncomfortable, you'll have to do what you haven't done to get what you never had. Learn to sacrifice something that you like to live a life you'll LOVE.

Bad Thought #3: Wasting time regretting, criticizing, shaming and blaming yourself or others for past mistakes. Every time you rehearse a past failure you reinforce the experience and cause similar experiences to keep happening to you. Then you're like, " I knew this would happen...I knew I wouldn't get the job...I knew it wouldn't happen for me..."

Good Thought: Start each day with a clean slate. Before you go to sleep at night, take a few minutes to think positive thoughts of accomplishing your dreams and goals. Learn from your mistakes, but don't allow your past to negatively affect your future. Replace those thoughts with positive ideals about your future, what you want to accomplish.

Bad Thought/Action #4: Having unclear goals or the wrong goals that never get met and often cause you to feel guilty about the lack of achievement. With no goals you can't fail because you've got nowhere to go. You can't find fulfillment in life without goals or low goals. That inner burning to be greater will nag you to achieve more.

Good Thought:
Most people's dreams fail because they are not clear about their intentions. What do you want? Create concrete significant goals so that you have something to work towards.

Bad Thought/Action #5:
Allowing naysayers to bombard you with stories, statistics and sayings that convince you that you are incapable of winning. This is what I call the crab syndrome. Whenever a crab tries to climb out of the bucket, the other crabs grab a hold of him and pull him back down to the bottom with them.
It's the funniest thing when you decide to go'll hear all kinds of crazy things like, "don't work yourself to death."

Good Thought: In order to GO BIG, tune out the critics. They know the cost of everything and the value of NOTHING. Fill your mind with positive affirmations and information that will lead you in the direction of your goals. Become an expert on your dream. The more you learn about it, the more confident you'll become at achieving it.

Bad Thought #6: You'd rather be bored and secure than enthusiastically taking risks to reach your goals. Security will have you locked in. It will keep you stuck in a career even though you're unable to grow in that space any more. Security will also have you unwilling to work through your fears or relationships...because you're afraid to rock the boat.

Good Thought:
Life is too short to hide behind a security blanket. Think of new ways to take risks every day. You can start small with something like updating your LinkedIn Profile and adding new contacts from companies you want to work with. Stop worrying about the outcome, you'll never know unless you try.

Bad Thought #7: Deep down inside, you may be feeling like you're unworthy of real success and are waiting on someone to give you permission to go for it.

Good Thought: You don't need anyone's permission but your own to GO BIG! Give yourself permission to win big in your life and business. You deserve a life of accomplishment, fulfillment and financial freedom.

Maybe these points are familiar to you, and you're fully aware how important it is to adjust your thinking in order to achieve success. If that's the case then let this be a reminder to you to gain control of your thoughts and take action on what you really want in life. Negative thoughts can clutter your mind and create chaos in your life. You have to clear the chaos and focus on thinking bigger so that you can achieve more.

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