09/19/2009 05:12 am ET Updated May 25, 2011

I Had Sex on the First Date

Dear Matt and Tamsen,
I made the mistake of having sex on the first date. He isn't calling. How do I fix this?

Answer: Honestly, we don't think that you should try to fix this. If you gave all of yourself (physically) to this guy (which you will NOT do again!) and he doesn't have the common decency to call or even return your call, he obviously just wanted one thing from you. Why would you even want to waste any more time on a guy like this? He got it and now he's gone.

Unfortunately, you must chalk this one up as a lesson learned. The next time Mr. Right at the Moment comes a calling or crawling to your bedroom, make sure that he has to wait at least 10,000 moments to sleep with you. Most men are genetically flawed when it comes to sex: They think only in the moment and not about the repercussions of their actions.

No matter how hard he tries not to he will label you as a one night stand girl, it will be a rare gem who thinks of you as relationship material after a one night stand.

-Matt and Tamsen

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