04/27/2015 04:07 pm ET Updated Jun 25, 2015

Career Tips For The New Single

I have found that job hunting and success in the workplace is a lot like dating. Yes, ironic, but it's true. There are ways to do it well and then there are things that you never want to repeat again. So, I put together a few things to keep in mind whether you are looking to start a new career or a new job following a divorce or big life change or if you have one and you are working to move ahead.

Appreciate Today

Every time I swipe my card to go into work I say a little thank you to the universe for allowing me to be there. And I am often ready for the weekend before Wednesday hits, but at the end of the day, I am grateful for what I have been given and I always try to remember to appreciate it. Even if you are in the middle of a job search, say thank you every step of the way.

Stay Savvy

The world is changing at an alarming, yet exciting rate. But it is not chic to say, "I'm not a tech person" or "I hate social media." That is well and good, but if you are looking to stay mentally young in the world you are going to have to keep learning. Take Apple classes, talk to your kids, your nephew, or your niece about the newest, latest, and greatest apps or website out there and take the time to just learn on your own. It is not enough to know just the basics anymore.

Say Yes

I have said this a few times before, but you must say yes. This time though, I am not talking about dating, instead I am talking about networking. You never know who you are going to meet along the way.

Invest In Yourself

This can be a tough one to hear, but I learned over time it is the one approach that truly works. If you want to make money, sometimes in business you have to spend money or at least invest in the basics to get ahead. I learned this one the hard way--when you are cheap in this area and you don't have the proper tools you need for yourself, your career, or your corporation--it can hurt you in the end. You don't have to have the most expensive of anything, but you do need to be in the game. So, if you need a laptop, a tablet, an iPhone, the right clothes, or the right car to be better at your job--please invest in PROJECT YOU first.

Ask For It.

I remember for so many years, I would complain that I wasn't making enough money or I wasn't far enough in my career. But, the problem was that while I was sitting there complaining about it--someone else was asking for it.

No one is going to do it for you. If you want something, you have to ask for it. No exceptions. If you want a raise, don't make a big deal out of it. Write down the reasons, make an appointment with your boss, and then ask for it.

If you want a new position or a new job, don't bemoan the fact you don't have it, write down the steps to getting it and go after it. The stickie notes on my Mac have been a lifesaver for me. I have tons of them and they are always filled up with my lists and my plans and my dreams. Write down your dreams. See them. And then, make them happen.