10/19/2012 12:21 am ET Updated Dec 18, 2012

Take a Fearless Inventory

In order to live fearlessly, you have to discover your truth -- analyze what in your life feels right and in line with your authentic self and what does not (what you do out of feelings of obligation or fear).

In hopes of inspiring you to recognize your fears and limiting beliefs, here is an exercise that I use in many of my workshops and with private clients (and I even do it myself every couple months).

Knowledge and desire to change what is not working in your life is the first step to creating a life you LOVE where fear informs but does not dominate.

With this exercise, you are actually stockpiling an inventory of fearlessness!

I challenge you to bust out of your comfort zone and actually do this exercise!

1.) Draw a line down the center of a sheet of paper.

2.) On the top of left side of the line, write, "What Do I Want More Of In My Life?"

Then write the following categories, leaving some space between each to fill in what you want more of:
  • Career
  • Love
  • Finances
  • Spirituality
  • Health & Wellness
  • Family
  • Other

3.) On the top of the right hand column, write, "What Do I Want Less Of In My Life?"

Then write the same categories leaving some space between each to fill in what you want less of:
  • Career
  • Love
  • Finances
  • Spirituality
  • Health & Wellness
  • Family
  • Other

4.) Take some time to fill out each category. When you are finished, tear the paper along the centerline, safely burn the "Want Less" list, releasing its energy from your life, and hang the "Want More" list where you can see it on a daily basis.

Once you have completed the "Want More"/"Want Less" exercise, do a Fearless Journaling Exercise to dig deeper.

1. What Do You Really Want?

Write the story of how your ideal life looks. Be specific.

For example:

  • You want to work how many hours per week? What does your office look like? What type of people are your co-workers?
  • What does your relationship look like? How do you want to handle conflict? What do you do to keep the relationship alive?
  • Where do you want to live? What does your living space look like?
  • What do you want to do for fun/balance? Are there any new hobbies you want to explore or old ones you would like to start up again?
  • Do you want to travel? Where?

2. What Is Getting in the Way?

Without judging or blaming, list the top three things in your life right now that are preventing you from creating the lifestyle you described in number one. (Be specific and provide as much detail as possible.)

This weekend, allow yourself the time and space to put thoughts into words (which makes you more accountable and, therefore, more likely to act upon them). Living the life you deserve that is in line with your truth is worth the time and effort. Once you have completed the exercise, refer back to it and update your progress. Seeing how far you've come will motivate you to keep going!

My two parting thoughts...

When you are confronted with a choice, no matter how small or insignificant, act as if you have a preference!
"If I did know, what would it be?"
"If I did care, what would I choose?"
"If it did matter, what would I rather do?"

Psychologists say that we are born with only two fears:
  • Falling
  • Loud noises

*Which means every other fear is learned. Therefore, it can be un-learned!

I am interested to hear how this exercise goes for you. Were you surprised by your responses? Did you find it empowering to put your thoughts down on paper, and does it inspire you to create an action plan? Are there areas you still feel stuck and need guidance? If so, share your thoughts or questions right here and get support from our Becoming Fearless community and yours truly.

Love Love Love


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