The L.A. Times coined the term "Black Friday" in a 2008 article, referring to the annual Friday in L.A. when private elementary school admissions letters are mailed.
This is when parents will find out if their kindergartner is admitted to John Thomas Dye, Brentwood, Crossroads, Oakwood, The Center for Early Education, The Willows, or any other top-tier private elementary schools.
Forget earthquakes or traffic on the 405 -- March 15 is much worse... Come Friday, parents all over L.A. will be chasing down the mail trucks, obsessively checking email and calling friends with same year kids to re-asses their own odds... Fights with spouses will sky rocket, panic attacks will be rampant, moms will lock themselves in closets, others will skip work, shrinks will phone emergency Xanax prescriptions to Mickey Fines across L.A., and worse. Expect sheer and total panic.
Acceptance and rejection letters are a game changer. After all, is an Ivy League college that far away? No, and the right elementary school is essential to get on the fast track to the Harvard, Princeton or Yale.
I know because I've been there. We applied to four schools for my daughter for kindergarten. It was a stressful, uncertain and an almost surreal process. My emotional health became shaky as Black Friday neared. All my friends were having rumbles of panic attacks, calling each other every half hour trying unsuccessfully to anticipate the outcome... Educational consultants were on standby to counsel existing clients and accept new ones who just figured out they need help.Elementary Schools Tuition (From Most to Least Expensive)
- Buckley: $29,856
- Brentwood: $28,250
- Campbell Hall: $25,990
- Carlthorp: $21,864
- Center For Early Education: $24,435
- Crossroads: $26,600
- Curtis: $23,950
- John Thomas Dye: $24,650
- Laurence: $23,000
- Oakwood: $27,370
- PS#1: $23,950
- Pilgrim: $12,360
- Viewpoint: $26,515
- Westland: $19,020
- Westside Waldorf: $18,768
- Wildwood: $25,985
- Willows: $24,800
Once price is settled, the competition is fierce.
I remember chatting "casually" with other moms about the admissions process. On more than one occasion, a mom would say something like, "The chairman of the board at school x-y-z rents our summer house in the Hamptons so I'm sure we'll get in."
Jennifer Lopez is currently trying to get her twins, Emme and Max, into Buckley in Sherman Oaks. Another friend saw Gabriel Aubry (Halle Berry's baby daddy) on a tour for Oakwood School.
Once Black Friday has come and gone, there is the dreaded wait-list issue... Being wait-listed merely prolongs the process. Wait-listed at JTD? Is that good news or bad news? At some schools, kids get accepted from the wait-list almost immediately (one family's garbage is another one's gold). At other schools, wait-list status drags on into the summer months, potentially distracting from otherwise spectacular Cote D'azur vacations because families are waiting for "the call."
If and when the call comes, recipients gladly accept the spot, forfeiting the non-refundable deposit of about $2,000 at the other school that wasn't their first choice - but will certainly be another family's best news ever.
We were lucky; my daughter was accepted to three of the schools where we applied (my daughter ended up at The Willows, a wonderful private school) and I ended up co-authoring a book and blog from the lessons I learned about navigating the admissions process and surviving Black Friday.
One friend of mine who is currently waiting to hear from three top schools says she's taking it "minute by minute" and is upset with herself for getting so caught up in the frenzy. After all, she says, "It's only elementary school." Then, she adds, "but what if we don't get in anyplace?"
Another mom will be "doubling down on Xanax" in anticipation of the big day. "It could be good or it could be really bad. We only applied to two schools."
"If he's the only preschooler with a mustache, so be it," said one mom. "We'll keep applying until we get into our top choice school!"
This post was written by Christina Simon for The Daily Truffle. Christina is the co-author of "Beyond The Brochure: An Insider's Guide To Private Elementary Schools In Los Angeles" and blogs at Beyond the Brochure. The Daily Truffle is a Los Angeles Social Diary covering parties, people, and culture in L.A. www.thedailytruffle.com