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Child care work, mostly done by women and women of color, offers little workplace protections. And the pandemic has only made nannies more vulnerable.
The Chicago woman who received the letter said "it felt like a punch in the stomach."
A nanny is a luxury and just like with any luxury item, it's not a necessity and not something everyone can afford -- even if you want one really, really badly.
This is a good thing. A very good thing.
Parents, I can see where you are coming from. Truly, I can. Childcare is expensive. The idea of paying top dollar for someone to sit at your house while your child is sleeping can be difficult to swallow. But here's the thing -- your nanny/babysitter isn't doing "nothing" -- they are taking care of your child.
Being on all three sides of a guest list -- inviter, invited and uninvited -- can help children not only become more resilient, but also more conscientious and empathetic. It's up to parents to use parties as opportunities for chats about friendship, kindness, and etiquette.