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01/21/2015 01:49 pm ET Updated Mar 23, 2015

#NoFilter: Why Confidence Is the New Black

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It's right about the time that everyone's coming back from their winter getaways, which only means one thing for us girls: time to stalk the bikini pictures. I'm pretty positive that your Facebook and Instagram feeds are completely overloaded with pictures of girls in their bikinis trying to look as artsy and model-esque as they can, while holding a fruity cocktail on the beach. It has become to feel like a competition of who can upload the coolest pictures, while still looking extremely pretty, but most importantly skinny.

It's really hard for someone like myself, who has gone through a pretty intense weight-loss journey, to fathom the fact that the girls of Gen-Y are completely obsessed with their body image and comparing themselves to each other. There are even apps on iPhones that girls now use that edit their pictures to make them look taller, leaner, toned, and skinnier. It's becoming pretty intense.

Trust me, I'm all about caring about your health and wellness, as well as showing off your hot bod on vacation. I eat pretty healthy and workout, and I splurge in moderation so whenever a photo-op comes about I take it and share it to social media. But now I'm starting to hesitate sharing any of my pictures because the bar is set so high by these super thin girls who have unrealistic bodies not every girl can have. That scared me a little because I am confident in who I am and what I look like. So clearly, this common obsession of how skinny we can get has gotten out of control.

I have struggled with my body image for years when I was younger. But as I got older, I began to realize that my body has really nice features. I love my curves and I love the body I was given. And I know that I will never have a stick-thin body because that's just who I am and I'm 100 percent content with that. You should be too. No matter if you're curvy or not, you should love your body. It's the only one you'll get, so cherish it.

Girls shouldn't be proud of the fact that they didn't eat as much as their friend that day. They shouldn't edit their pictures to make their stomach flatter and their thigh-gap bigger. They shouldn't look up to and be jealous of these unrealistic Victoria's Secret models. They also shouldn't feel the need to dedicate their time to look at everyone's pictures, compare their bodies, or point out any flaws. It's destructive, and I know we're all guilty.

Girls should be confident in themselves, upload pictures of themselves without any edits or modifications feeling comfortable doing so, and not compare their bodies to others. Love your body for what it is, because I bet it's pretty awesome.

Stefie writes for Unwritten. You can follow her on twitter @Stefanieerachel.